Aftermath of Death and Unexpected Gifts

I scanned the room, taking in the scene around me. Ro Mereani’s brothers and were gathered on the floor sitting on dakua mats. The elders had already broken out the tanoa (literal translation meaning ‘big wooden bowl’) to serve kava. Ro Mereani was fast at work with the nurse and housekeeper preparing the body for transport.

Sala, the nanny, had given me one her sulus to wear while I was out in the living room. “We must wear them around the elders. It’s a sign of respect,” she said with a sweet smile. She helped me wrap it and took her place next to D’Tui. I stood against the bedroom door frame, rubbing the material between my fingers.

Felix talked quickly in Fijian to the police officers in the doorway. One cocked his head around Felix’s frame to assess me standing in the back of the room. He obviously wondered what business a European white girl like me had in this situation.

I couldn’t be mad at him for thinking my presence was suspicious. I was wondering the same thing.

I eyed the internet connection to see if it was turned on (because that’s a thing here- internet is so expensive it’s not practical to keep it on all the time) and inched my way back to the bedroom I was staying in. I needed to talk to someone now. In private.

I was officially freaking out and (naturally) trying very hard not to show it to anyone here. I doubt I was very good at it, but besides the police officer, no-one was paying attention to me. So that was good. I could slip away into my bedroom and hide. And ask for advice from someone thousands of miles away.

I didn’t say it was a great plan. But it was the only one I had.

Little D’Tui (Felix’s three year-old daughter) tugged on my sulu before I could get all the way in the door. “Auntie, Auntie,” she said, in her typical chipper voice, looking at me with her gorgeous doe eyes.

“Yes, D’Tui?” I said as calmly as possible, working to keep the maelstrom of emotions from bubbling to the surface. I tapped into my psychology training and gave her a polite disconnected smile.

“We have to close our eyes,” she said, reaching on her tippy toes and touching my face. “Like papa. He closes his eyes so we have to, too.”

(Enter knife into my heart here).

I nodded and smiled and told her I would do that. She nodded with satisfaction and skipped off in another direction. Sala trailed her, the ever present shadow of the little girl.

I wondered if D’Tui really understood what was going on. Because I sure as hell didn’t.

I closed the bedroom door and sat precariously on the edge of the bed with my head in my hands. I swallowed, trying to make sense of this, listening to the commotion going on in the next room.

How had this happened? Why had this happened? And as selfish a thought as it was, why me? First I meet Talei and she dies shortly after our departure and now this? Hadn’t we all been through enough death? Enough pain? And why did this have to happen shortly after my arrival? Was I the freaking Angel of Death or something?

I bit my lip and considered the possibility that even if this was just a crazy random happenstance, the family may not see it that way. Would they recant their blessing to have me stay here? Or worse, would they hex me?

This was all too much.

I turned on Talei’s laptop and prayed adamantly for someone to be online to IM with. I didn’t care if it was my parents, my best friend, or my freaking dog. I was ready to tell my tale to the next person who posted a Facebook status update. So I waited, hoping someone would come through.

Whether through my powers of ESP or crazy good luck, my dad was on. After I messaged him and explained the situation, we Skyped. “What am I supposed to do? I’ve only known this family for such a short time. Should I even be here for this? Should I stay? Should I go?” I wondered aloud. The Clash song rang in my head over and over again.

“Well, there will be lots of people coming around,” he said gravely. “And there will be a funeral. And things will be different, but that’s okay because everything is different there for you anyway. So it’s all good, yes?”

I thought on his words for a moment. “Yeah, I guess. This just wasn’t the type of different I was expecting.” My dad smiled but I was not amused.

Oh, those damn Great Expectations (yes, they were so great they get to be capitalized). Why was it that even though I had no idea what to expect upon arrival, I still had a very firm idea of how this trip was supposed to go? Why was it that I was only willing to accept my reality up to a point?

“But really,” I finally spoke out loud again, “Who thinks this is going to happen to them while traveling?”

We left it at that.

I found Felix out on the balcony smoking a cigarette while the women finished cleaning and preparing the body and room. The house smelled of decay and bleach so it was nice to get some fresh air.

It was raining (as it always does in the early afternoon here). I felt the little drops prick the surface of my skin and collect over my freckles. With every drop that hit my skin the words, “You are alive,” repeated in my head. Only with each drop the emphasis was different. You ARE alive. You are ALIVE. YOU are alive.

Felix took a long drag before speaking. “I’m terribly sorry you have to be here for all of this. But it is for the best. It was time for his suffering to end. He was in a very bad state this morning and I kept asking God why he was putting this incredible man through all this pain.”

I remained silent, remembering hearing all sorts of commotion coming from David’s room in the early hours of the morning. I was too tired to get up and see what the deal was so I had rolled over and gone back to sleep. Meanwhile, David had spent his last hours with his wife and son. The concept that I could sleep through such a thing was sad. And absurd. And and and…

Felix carried on smoking and chatting, unaware of the conversation I was having with myself in my head. “This is a sad moment, but it’s also a moment of relief. Talei’s death was unexpected but his was not. The timing is just inconvenient.” He took another drag before continuing. “But then again, maybe this was his parting gift to you.”

I looked at him, expressionless.

He smiled out of the corner of his mouth, “Well, you said you wanted a traditional Fijian experience, yes?” I nodded mutely. “Well besides a wedding, there’s nothing that holds more custom and tradition for us Fijians than a funeral.” I turned my gaze out at the lush hills surrounding us.

Another drag. “And because he was married to my mother and because of her lineage, he will be treated like a chief. Villagers from all around will be coming over the next few weeks to pay their respects. You’ll certainly get to see something that very few visitors ever do. And you’ll even get to take part.”

I nodded, wanting to be happy about this but only feeling numb. I cleared my throat and finally spoke softly, “Well, please let me know if I can do anything.”

He nodded. “I’ll need your help keeping my mother’s spirits up, but she likes you so that shouldn’t be too hard. And we may have you fulfill some of the roles Talei would have taken had she still been alive.” I swallowed, wondering what that would mean. “Yes, this will be an enriching experience for you indeed.”

One of the men called to Felix from inside. It was time for them to wrap and transport the body to the mortuary.

He chuckled and stamped out his cigarette, turning to go in to help but stopped short of the doorway. “Then again,” he said carefully, “Who knows? Maybe instead of this being David’s gift to you, you were Talei’s gift to us during this tough time.”

I watched him go while his words echoed and rattled in my brain, sinking into my heart.

Could that be possible? Did Talei arrange all of this? Had she and David hatched a plan to have him depart upon my arrival? Was there possibly a greater cosmic plan to my terrible timing?

I laughed at myself for even entertaining the thought and headed back inside to see where I could make myself useful. Thunder clapped overhead and all the neighborhood dogs were silent.

But then again… my life was already stranger than fiction. Was it too much of a stretch to say the ghost of my friend hatched a plan to bring me here and arrange her father’s departing at the same time?

I guess I’ll leave that for you to decide.


20 thoughts on “Aftermath of Death and Unexpected Gifts

  1. Sweet Hilary…Thank you for this. Felix’ words are a comfort to me at this time because I am going through this with my own Father. Even though my Dad has been ill for this past year, my Mom told me today that he may not make it through the weekend. I’ve accepted life’s passages and I’m grateful that I was able to spend time with my Dad this past year and resolve relationship issues with him. I know that everyone experiences loved ones passing, whether it is expected or not, it is still difficult to accept that a person will not be there to talk and laugh with. Hilary, I may need to gve you a call soon. Peace and Love!

    • Hi Brenda,

      I am so sorry to hear you are going through these tough times. It must be so difficult for you and your mother to face this. Please know that you and your family are in my heart and prayers.

      And you call whenever you want! Lots of love!

  2. I believe that many things happen for some reason..there is a big plan behind all of the things that happen, but we jut can’t see it..we can only make lucky guesses. anyhow, this family seems to be so friendly, positive, loving even in the moments like these. sometimes it’s better not to think and analyze all the consequences and reasons why..i believe that you are there for a reason, and that you’ll play you role perfectly! :))

    • They are a wonderful family! I am very lucky to have this opportunity, even if it wasn’t what I thought it was going to be. Learning so much about them, myself, and the culture everyday. Can’t wait to share more updates.

      Lots of love to you! And thank you so much for your undying optimism and support. =)

  3. Songs with situation-appropriate lyrics always pop into my head, too! Ha. I think something really grand is at work here… Keep your chin up girl, it’ll all come together and you’ll be a stronger person for it. And keep us updated with your entrancing stories. 🙂

    • Phew, at least I’m not alone with DJing my own life’s soundtrack ;).

      And thank you so much! I feel like it’s a character building situation, but it’s hard to see the growth when you’re in it, you know? And I greatly appreciate your optimism and support! Don’t worry; more posts and updates to come!

  4. Once again, remember that everything happens for a reason… Felix’s words ring true. Don’t worry about being there, you’re there because you had to be there to help the family go through this, not that everything depends on you either. You’re there as a token of your friendship with Talei, however short that was, it was strong enough that you made this trip. Yes, take it easy. Your kindness is all they need. You’re not in the wrong place at all.
    I’ll be thinking of you.

  5. You have got to stop ending these the way you do!!!! OMG! I am crying and so into what I’m reading, that when it comes to the end, I have to read it all over again. You, my friend, are a great storyteller. Your life is one of a kind and I am so grateful you want to share your life with all of us. I agree – I think Talei and David knew exactly what they were doing. Such a beautiful family and to be able to think the way they do in such tough times is inspiring. I cannot wait to read more, but then again, I don’t know how much more my heart can take 🙂

    • Oh, Ruby, I’m so sorry! I never meant to make you cry! (On the other hand, that is quite the compliment to me… I am so thrilled to hear that my writing is capable of evoking an emotion). I am also so grateful that you feel so much for me and this family, regardless of never having met either. You have such an amazing ability to connect and empathize. It’s a beautiful thing.

      Thank you so much for the accolades. I definitely feel this is a story worth sharing. Stranger than fiction, that’s for sure.

      I hope that my future posts won’t be near as morbid (no pun intended I swear! 🙂 But please bear with me, regardless. I know that if Talei is truly behind this, she’ll have good things in store for me too. Now I just have to find them. =)

      Lots of love to you!

  6. oh that’s so sad. And I understand how you feel. It must really feel weird. I guess the best thing for now is to be really be there for them. It’s a good opportunity for our innate kindness to be shared. Take it easy.

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